Before proceeding,

Tell me – did you ever expect anything to happen,

Oh! of course, you did

And almost everyone expects once in their life and indeed you get something unexpected.

Isn’t it? How did I know? Because I’ve experienced it on a level where some unfortunate people did.

. . .

It all started when one day I and my friend (chitvanya Joshi in short CJ) were chilling at a cafe near our college.

We are discussing, criticizing, and gossiping about life and college.

Suddenly CJ, raise his eyebrows up and said look’ she is watching you,

I said who? because I was facing CJ.

He said, you idiot! look at the table behind me, I notice, this girl always looks at you.

Believe me, whenever in life, if your friend said this to you either kick him or ignore him.

Then,

I wiggle my neck so I can see behind CJ, and I just pause for a few seconds.

Truly, a short hair, black eyes with a beautiful face cut, a girl around 22 age( I guessed) is looking at me, our eyes clashed a few times.

Whoa😮, what a feeling it is.

I tell CJ yes! she is looking at me.

Then the girl stands up and goes outside, this scenario happens regularly, after college we go to the cafe and face the same Déjà vu.

Now, I always think about that girl, in my dreams, in class, and even when playing. Seems like I’m attracted to her.

One day casually I tell CJ about the situation ( a big mistake), and now he is forcing me to talk to the girl and express myself.

I don’t know why I agreed with CJ, and we go to the cafe as usual.

I am nervous + hesitant + puzzled, but anyhow I gather my courage and sit in front of that girl.

. . .

I said hi, and she said hello but in confusion,

I said – for the past several days you saw me and I saw you,

I think it’s the right time to talk so that we can become friends,

She said what?

I began to speak again, oblivious that she is already frustrated;

Don’t be hesitant I am not forcing you to come into a relationship,

but.. before I open my mouth to speak the next line a flying slap landed on my face.

This happen in a fraction of the time that I took seconds to come back to reality.

Suddenly CJ and a young (26 aged) man came toward me. The girl suddenly hugged the man and said that I molested her.

Before the boy came to me for beating, CJ stand in front and said to the girl, aren’t you the one who looks at him daily, passes smiles and allusions?

The girl grumbled and said you fucking idiot,

I was always looking at my boyfriend who sits behind you,
you both always sit between us, and that’s why I have to struggle to look at him.

That day somehow CJ managed and take me out.

I got my lesson.

I had expected too early, I created expectations for the girl before eyeing the reality.

Literally ‘Shakespeare’ put it best.

“Expectation is the root of all heartache.”

William Shakespeare

After that, I understand the reality of expectations.

And looking for what to do if you couldn’t expect it, I found we can always have HOPE.

But somewhere everybody is confused between hope/reality and expectations so I tried to explain it at my best.

An opaque odd b/w expectation and hope?

Although these two look similar, not actually. 

Expectations and hopes are beliefs or wishes about the future. 

An expectation is a strong belief in the future, while hope is a feeling of optimism or a wish for something to happen.

The main difference between expectation and hope is that expectations usually depend on someone, while hopes do not.

In expectation, you pre-decided what may happen and starts to act unrealistic, but in hope, you believe whatever may happen I will give my best or never give up based on real facts.

“Expectations and hope” are similarly opposite to each other like “awake and wake”.

In easy words, the difference between awake and wake is the same as expectation and hope.

The more you hope the more you gain self-confidence, esteem, and patience. while the more you expect the more you regret if things did not work in your favour.

Why expectation is a way to pain?

Why hopes are positive and healthy, and expectations hurt and disappoint you?

Because

Expectations just work as a daydream but on which your mind has fully believed to be true.

But somewhere mind also knows it is unrealistic but just because the mind likes instant gratification from expectations,

it always shows you the possibility that how good your dream is, how happy you will become after achieving that and more.

The truth may become invisible, but it’s always there.

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And when the dream broke, we came into reality, saw the truth, and met the facts,

then it felt like we were stupid and lost.

Conclusion

The interesting fact is that you can assume ”hope and reality” as the same thing if compared to expectations.

HOPE has nil side effects.

You can hope that everything will be fine, I can do it, I may face hurdles but I will figure it out and reach there.

The more you hope the more you got approaches and ways to figure out the solutions to any problem.

And finally, I and CJ accepted,

Yes! Expectations can make you unhappy.